Based on the abysmally high national divorce rate, it’s no wonder that many people are cynical about falling in love. But we’re not going to join that chorus of negative Nancys because we have plenty of proof that love exists and is as strong as it ever was. Through the years, couples have shared their own stories of forever love by posting then and now couple photos showing that though they may change physically, they still have enduring, unflinching love.
Here are before and after pictures of everyday couples who have been at it for the long haul, whose endearing devotion to one another shows us — nay, the world — that love flows in abundance all around us, and each and every one of us can and will find it.
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published in May 2016. It has been updated throughout.
“Love” is defined as “an intense feeling of deep affection,” or “a person or thing that one loves.” Like this couple, when you love something so much, 50 years can go by like that. *snaps fingers*
Some synonyms for love include fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, and endearment.
We know, we know. “What are celebrities doing on the list?” you’re asking right now. But there are plenty of celebrity couples worthy of this list, not those ones who marry and divorce all within a season of the year (ahem, Kardashians…). Take leading man Hugh Jackman and his wife Deborra-Lee Furness. They were going strong before he hit the big time and they’re going strong still.
According to Wikipedia, “Love is a variety of different emotional and mental states, typically strongly and positively experienced, that ranges from deepest interpersonal affection to simple pleasure.”
Love is great between two people, but love is maybe best when it represents human kindness, compassion, affection, and empathy for others, not just those we personally know.
Ancient Greek philosophers identified four forms of love — familial love, friendly love, romantic love, and divine love.
More modern authors have identified and written about different forms of love, including infatuated love, self-love, and courtly love.
Impersonal love can be the love of a volunteer worker for their cause, an altruistic feeling maybe born from strong spiritual and political convictions.
Impersonal love also can involve the love of material objects, such as loving pets, a love for a particular activity, or loving the Royal Crown in England.
But at the end of the day, most of us are just looking for that interpersonal love, the love between human beings.
Unrequited love refers to feelings of love that are not returned. This definitely wasn’t the case for Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn, who have been married for more than 30 years.
Bridges met his wife, Susan Geston, while he was filming Rancho Deluxe in Montana, but didn’t realize the first moment he ever spoke to her was captured on camera. Years later, the on-set photographer sent him two photos showing the moment Bridges first approached the stranger.
In a biological sense, love is viewed as a mammalian drive, like being hungry or thirsty, according to Wikipedia.
While working on the set of Pontiac Moon in 1993, Ted Danson met Mary Steenburgen, whom he would later marry in 1995. The two would work on a few projects together, including the acclaimed miniseries Gulliver’s Travels (pictured). Now, more than 20 years later, the two are as close as ever, based on Danson’s Instagram account.
Leading experts in the field of biological love divide the experience into three different, but overlapping stages — lust, attraction, and attachment.
Lust is the feeling of sexual desire and the first stage of love, according to experts who study biological love.
Next comes romantic attraction, in which partners find and choose the specific characteristics they want in their mate.
The final stage is attachment, which involves sharing a home, being parents, and providing feelings of safety and security.
The three distinct stages also are accompanied by neural circuitries and behavioral patterns, according to love experts.
In the lust stage, the body increases the release of the chemicals testosterone and estrogen. These effects generally last a few weeks and months.
The attraction stage has the greatest variance between individuals. Studies in neuroscience indicate that as people fall in love, the brain consistently releases the same set of chemicals, which include the neurotransmitter hormones dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin.
The neurotransmitter hormones dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are the same compounds released by amphetamines, stimulating the brain’s pleasure center. Side effects include increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and intense feelings of excitement.
Research shows that the attraction stage of falling in love can last anywhere from one and a half to three years.
In the final stage of attachment, couples officially enter into the “long-term” category, according to science.
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are thoroughly in the long-term category, where the body releases high levels of oxytocin and vasopressin, hormones that play a role in social bonding.
Psychology differs in defining love as a cognitive and social phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg posited a triangular theory of love.
Sternberg’s triangular theory of love is made up of three components — intimacy, commitment, and passion. These components are similar to the biological basis — passion = lust, intimacy = attraction, and commitment = attachment.
The evolutionary basis of love states that love is a survival tool; humans are dependent on parents to provide, and when they are able, they look to pass on their bloodline.
In Ancient Rome, the Latin language had several words corresponding to the English word for “love.”
Ancient Romans used amō, the basic verb meaning “I love.” The infinitive amare means “to love” and is still used in Italian today. Latin sometimes uses amāre, which in common English would mean “to like.”
Famed actress Meryl Streep has been in a loving marriage for more than 35 years. She married Don Gummer in 1978.
In China, the philosophical underpinnings of love are captured in Confucian thought (Ren), which emphasizes actions and duties, compared to Mohism (Ai), which champions a universal love of all things.
Similarly, the Japanese use three words to convey the different feelings of love — Ai, maternal or selfless love; koi, or romantic love; ren’ai, a more modern construction that combines the kanji of both ai and koi, and is another term for romantic love.
In Persian culture, Rumi, Hafiz, and Sa’di are icons of passion and love. The Persian word for love is Ishq.
In Turkey, love can be for a god, a person, parents, or family, but that one special person that someone loves is their “ask.”
The philosophy of love attempts to find meaning in the seemingly irrational behavior that we describe as love.
In trying to explain the existence of love, psychological theories posit it as an overly healthy human behavior. In evolutionary theories, it’s viewed as a part of the process of natural selection.
In spiritual theories of love, it’s believed to be a gift from god, while in mystical theories of love, it’s considered an unexplainable mystery. Do you think you’ve found love? SHARE these amazing photos and theories with your friends.
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